I was in the club tonight celebrating Cinqo de Mayo when Juan told me that he had just been snubbed by a guy who walked by us.
I know him! He used to be my friend then he lost some weight and now he acts like he doesn’t know me.
This happens a lot when people lose weight. They find themselves with fewer friends, and they don’t know how or why.
Here are three tips for losing weight without losing friends:
1. Stop talking about your weight loss.
Your friends really don’t care how many pounds you have lost. Just say that you’re not keeping track, and then change the subject to something about them
-So, how many pounds have you lost so far?
–I haven’t weighed myself in a while…OMFG, where did you get your shoes?
Talking too much about yourself alienates others. Especially if all you’re talking about is how many grams of protein you ate at lunch or how much you have grown to love kale. Plus, talking about your weight loss might make your friends feel guilty if they think they should be losing weight, too. You don’t want to make your friends feel guilty so do like the Go-Gos and keep your lips sealed.
2. Don’t become a hoe.
It’s great that so many more guys find you attractive now that you are thin, but limit your bar make-out sessions to one per night. Or at least get your sluttiness out by yourself. Don’t drag your friends to the club so that they can watch you give your number to anything with a dick. Hoes are embarrassing so get some class or people will stop inviting you places.
3. Don’t become a thin snob.
Some people lose weight and forget they were ever fat. They don’t even want to talk to anyone who looks like they used to look. It’s kind of like poor people who become rich and will only associate with other rich people. They’ll even talk badly about fat people as if they don’t know how hurtful and mean such talk is.
Bonus Tip
As you lose weight, take time to reflect on how you are changing inside and how you want your life to be. Maybe you will want to be more outgoing. Well, be aware that some of your friends might not like the more outgoing you. They might prefer the shy you. Some people don’t like adjusting to change, even if it seems like a positive change. Just be a kind, positive person and trust that any friends you lose will be replaced by ones who like you for who you are and how you want to be.
By Charlie Fields of kettlebody.com. Charlie is a San Diego personal trainer known for his pleasure-enhancing approach to exercise and eating. For more tips like this or to learn about Charlie’s bootcamps, eating workshops and coaching, or personal training, visit kettlebody.com.