A lot of prospective clients tell me that their goal is to go shirtless at the beach.
I ask them why they can’t go shirtless now.
Your body is not something to be ashamed of, no matter how you used to look or how you think you should look. Your body is wonderful, and you can be proud of it!
Sure, it feels nice to walk down Black’s and make heads turn, but it feels even better to walk with your head high, free from caring how others think you look.
Do you know why? Because when the way you feel about yourself is dependent on how other people think you look, you are in prison. That is a sad and dangerous place to be. It is the breeding ground for depression, eating disorders, alcoholism, and drug abuse. I know, I’ve been there.
Just this weekend, I went to two pool parties with my friend who has a really great body. For a minute, I felt a little nervous about being shirtless right next to him (even though I think I’m in damn good shape, myself), but then I remembered that it doesn’t matter. Even if people at the parties thought his body was “better” than mine, it really didn’t matter. Making the conscious decision to not worry about that allowed me to enjoy myself and have fun!
And, frankly, everyone (even the super-hotties of the world) would do well to stop caring what other people think NOW because it is inevitable that we will one day be too old (or too something else) to turn heads.
Besides, no one really cares how you look shirtless at the beach. They really don’t. Trust me, they don’t.
Now, bottomless at the beach? That’s another story!
By Charlie Fields of kettlebody.com. Charlie is a San Diego personal trainer known for his pleasure-enhancing approach to exercise and eating. For more tips like this or to learn about Charlie’s bootcamps, eating workshops and coaching, or personal training, visit kettlebody.com.